Creating With Joy: The Be-Do-Have Paradigm

happy family on beach playing and having funMost people believe that if they “have” a thing – e.g. more time, more money, more love etc –  they can finally do a thing – e.g. write a book, take up a hobby, go on a vacation, buy a home, strike up a new relationship – which will allow them to “be” a certain thing – happy, content, peaceful, prosperous etc. Yet this unconscious belief fights against our true nature.

We all run around trying to have or acquire certain things, doing many things at once, sometimes being in the flow but, quite often, feeling frustrated by some or all of the circumstances of our lives, since we rarely achieve the happy, joyful and fulfilling life we are seeking. If we do taste this, it is fleeting…

We need to recognise a deeper truth! As Shakespeare so eloquently put it to us not so long ago… “To be or not to be, that is the question.”

Everything is already within us, unmanifest as our greatest potentials of being and expression, but we must first know this before we can experience it. Knowing always leads to experience, not the other way round. This knowing is borne of intuition, not logic (at least not in the lower sense of the word) because the conditioned mind cannot understand it at all!

If we wish to be peaceful, wise or compassionate, we must “be” this first and all else follows naturally. We start doing things from this place of being and this ultimately brings us the things we’ve always wanted to have, without the attachment to those things. “Being” something sets us free and our desires become statements of preference to the Universe, not needy demands that constrict the flow of energy to us and through us.

It is far better to have preferences in this world than needs because the creative power has flow. Being needy restricts the flow of energy and limits you as to how the universe will bring you the essence of your request. If we can learn to trust, the manifestation of our requests will be greater than we imagined because the unconditional love of the Universe wants us to have what want.

So many of us are saying to ourselves “if only I had a little more time, or a little more money, I’d be truly happy”. However, we are failing to notice the connection between choosing to not be happy right now and the less than satisfactory results that are a consequence of that choice.

The person who is being happy seems to have the time to do everything that matters to them, all the money necessary and enough love to feel complete joy in doing anything and everything they choose.

“Deciding ahead of time what you choose to be produces that in your experience.” Conversations with God (Book 3)

If you act as if you are something, you will draw it to you. You become that which you act out but the action must spring from an inner knowingness; your actions must be sincere or the benefit of the action is lost!

You cannot fool yourself.

“Fake it til you make it” is a common expression but I think you’ll find that those who faked and succeeded (in the end) it had to make an internal switch to another state of being.

Most people who fake it, often repeat this unconscious behaviour until the cows come home, and they don’t see the results they really hope for!  Just look around and see.

Natural law requires the body, mind and spirit to be united in thought, word and deed for the process of creation to work. So if you are choosing to do something for the sake of it, stop. It’s doing it the hard way!

Sit down and take a moment to ask yourself why you are choosing to do what you’re doing.

Does it feel right, does it bring you joy?

Recognise your connection to the Divinity within you, and all around you, and that all possibilities are open to you from that relationship. Just as a fetus is dependent on its umbilical cord to receive nourishment from its mother, so too are we dependent on the SOURCE of our BEING for our nourishment and creative power.

If you are stuck and feel time-poor or money-poor, unhappy, lost or anything else, you must first realise and admit that you have chosen this experience for yourself – not consciously, because who would do that? – but unconsciously.

Only by owning the experience can you change it. If you say ‘I am holding onto this’, then you can choose to let it go.

You cannot change anything that you reject.

Source/Spirit — which some of you might call ‘God’ — is everything, the alpha and the omega: the light and the dark, the up and the down and everything in-between.

This has been said before, many times, in a myriad of different ways.

However, how often do we each stop to acknowledge the absolute profundity of this statement? How often do we rail against the less than pleasant conditions of our lives and bemoan our fate, rather than giving thanks for the insights and blessings yet to come?

We must give thanks for each and every experience we have, for it is a gift. That is the first thing to remember!

Secondly, we must seek to understand that life is a dichotomy, an experience within which two apparently contradictory truths can exist in the same space at the same time.

“[You] cannot choose to be magnificent unless there is something to choose from. Some part of [you] must be less than magnificent for [You] to choose the part of [You] that is magnificent.” Conversations with God, Book 3

We cannot know rich in the absence of poor, we cannot know light without the presence of darkness, we cannot know love without hate. And yet, we do not have to remain in any “negative” experience longer than we choose for it to be so. The human spirit rises, it does not fall in the face of true opportunity.

Embrace the part of life that is hurting or harming you in some way. Do not resist it, because what you resist persists!

Only in a neutral, open state can you allow another possibility to flow to you. This can admittedly be hard, especially if you are used to doing things a certain way and thinking certain thoughts that accompany each behaviour; for example, “this is the way life is” and “this is way its always been done” and “there’s no way I can change this.”

And yet, if you do not realise your own divinity and seek to consciously direct your thoughts, your life will continue to be the same.

Remember that past conditions and behaviour are not indicators of Present Truth or Reality. They are only to be used as a basis for asking questions and seeing the grander whole.

Your life is a moving spiral of energy, so if a problem re-presents itself again, the opportunity will always be to see it from a larger, grander, higher viewpoint.

The invitation is to go within and feel your inner truth about who you really are.

Who are you choosing to be today in relation to each person, circumstance or event that happens? Who are you choosing to “be”?

Use the illusion of this reality to set you free from past choices and behaviours that have kept you stuck!


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February 11, 2016

Jaime Tanna

Jaime Tanna is an international teacher and energy therapist specialising in the healing arts. As the visionary founder and director of Energy Therapy, Jaime is an experienced Spiritual Teacher/Mentor, Reiki Master, Yoga Teacher, Sound Healer and Intuitive, and brings a wide array of different skills to the healing table. Coming from a family of pharmacists and doctors, Jaime grew up with a strong allopathic model of the world but quickly saw the limitations of that paradigm. Today, with clients and students throughout the world, Jaime specialises in personal and spiritual development, yoga and meditation, and clearing and rebalancing the human energy field inspiring clients and students to connect to their deepest being to create a life lived on purpose, and with joy!

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