Misunderstanding produces a meaningless hot exchange of words. The bitter words that we did not really mean only create more havoc, more misunderstanding. This is how people who love one another deeply in the beginning sometimes turn their love into violent hatred.
Never permit a dichotomy to rule your life, a dichotomy in which you hate what you do so you can have pleasure in your spare time. Look for a situation in which your work will give you as much happiness as your spare time.