When you think of only of what you desire, without constant contradictions that are filled with doubt or disbelief, the Universal response to your desire comes quickly… But that kind of thought takes practice.
Loving the self, to me, begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.