Energy Therapy Article: Creating With Joy

Creating With Joy: The BE-DO-HAVE Paradigm

Posted on 26th June, 2009

In this time-space reality that we currently live in, many of us are still dictated to by others and live our lives accordingly, within very narrow limits. This unnatural tendency is set and maintained by the underlying expectations of others. The expectation of how to be a good daughter or son, wife or husband, mother or father, friend, lover, colleague, and so forth, is usually based upon what those around us feel we must do to prove ourselves to them.

Our global focus on materialistic values alone also fuels in each of us, as well as our children growing up, the unconscious belief that we are failures if we do not seek to climb to the very top of the ladder; not the spiritual ladder, of course, but the material ladder! And so our disconnected, fragmented way of experiencing life is perpetuated, with expectations that are burdensome and soul destroying.

We all run around trying to have or acquire certain things, doing many things at once, sometimes being in the flow but, quite often, feeling frustrated, resentful and burnt out. That is, until we recognise a deeper truth, a higher one. Once we get a glimpse of our Divine nature, it is only a short time before we can let go of our negative programming and dysfunctional lives.

As Shakespeare so eloquently put it to us a long time ago, "To be or not to be, that is the question."

Most believe that if they "have" a thing (more time, more money, more love), they can finally do a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on a vacation, buy a home, strike up a new relationship), which will allow them to "be" a certain thing - happy, content, peaceful, prosperous etc.

And yet, this unconscious belief fights against the nature of the Universe! Everything is within us, but we must first know this before we can experience it. Knowing always leads to experience, not the other way round. This knowing is borne of intuition, not logic, because the logical mind cannot understand it.

If we wish to be peaceful, wise or compassionate, we must "be" this first and all else follows naturally. We start doing things from this place of being and this ultimately brings us the things we've always wanted to have, without the attachment to those things. "Being" something sets us free and our desires become statements of preference to the Universe, not needy demands that constrict the flow of energy to us and through us.

It is far better to have preferences in this world than needs because the creative power has flow. Being needy restricts the flow of energy and limits you as to how the universe will bring you the essence of your request. If we can learn to trust, the manifestation of our requests will be greater than we imagined because the unconditional love of God wants us to have what want.

So many of us are saying to themselves "if only I had a little more time, a little more money, I'd be truly happy". However, we are failing to notice the connection between choosing to not be happy right now and the less than satisfactory results that are a consequence of that choice.

The person who is being happy seems to have the time to do everything that matters to her/him, all the money necessary and enough love to feel complete joy in doing anything and everything s/he chooses.

"Deciding ahead of time what you choose to be produces that in your experience." Conversations with God (Book 3)

If you act as if you are something, you will draw it to you. You become that which you act out... but the action must spring from an inner knowingness; your actions must be sincere or the benefit of the action is lost! After all, you can't fool yourself, can you?

Natural Law requires the body, mind and spirit to be united in thought, word and deed for the process of creation to work. Thus, if you are choosing to do something for the sake of it, stop. It's doing it the hard way! Sit down and take a moment to ask yourself why you are choosing to do what you're doing. Does it feel right, does it bring you joy?

Recognise your connection to the Divine and that all possibilities are open to you from that relationship. Just as a fetus is dependent on its umbilical cord to receive nourishment from its mother, so too are we dependent on SPIRIT for our nourishment.

If you are stuck and feel time-poor or money-poor, unhappy, lost or anything else, you must first realise and admit that you have chosen this experience for yourself. This may be a totally unconscious choice but it is still coming from you, or an aspect of you. Only by owning the experience can you change it. You cannot change anything that you reject because you reject a part of yourself, your Divine Self, which is part of the Great All-That-Is, All-That-Is-Not.

God is everything, the alpha and the omega, the light and the dark. This has been said before, many times, in a myriad of different ways. However, how often do we each stop to acknowledge the absolute profundity of this statement. How often do we rail against the less than pleasant conditions of our lives and bemoan our fate?

We must give thanks for each and every experience we have, for it is a gift. That is the first thing to remember.

Secondly, we must seek to understand that life is a dichotomy, an experience within which two apparently contradictory truths can exist in the same space at the same time.

"[You] cannot choose to be magnificent unless there is something to choose from. Some part of [you] must be less than magnificent for [You] to choose the part of [You] that is magnificent." Conversations with God, Book 3

We cannot know rich in the absence of poor, we cannot know light without the presence of darkness, we cannot know love without hate. And yet, we do not have to remain in any "negative" experience longer than we choose for it to be so. The human spirit rises, it does not fall in the face of true opportunity.

Embrace the part of life that is hurting or harming you in some way. Do not resist it, because what you resist persists! Only in a neutral, open state can you allow another possibility to flow to you. This can admittedly be hard, especially if you are used to doing things a certain way and thinking certain thoughts that accompany each behaviour; for example, "this is the way life is" and "this is way its always been done" and "there's no way I can change this."

And yet, if you do not realise your own divinity, and seek to consciously direct your thoughts, your life will continue to be the same.

Remember that past conditions and behaviour are not indicators of Present Truth or Reality. They are only to be used as a basis for asking questions and seeing the grander whole.

Your life is a moving spiral, so if a problem represents itself time and again, the opportunity will always be to see it from a larger, grander, higher viewpoint.

The invitation is to go within and feel your inner truth about who you really are. Who are you choosing to be today in relation to each person, circumstance or event that happens?

Use the illusion to set you free from past behaviours that have kept you stuck.

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